Here’s a little story….
Two days ago I took my kid and neighbour’s dogs for a walk to the wharf. It’s a thing we like to do at the end of a long day of school and work. We just walk, chat and giggle about the silly dogs. It’s cool and calm down there. Periodically I shout BONDING.
There are other people around – fishermen, some kids on bikes…the usual early evening crowd.
Anyway, there we were, sitting at the wharf with the dogs when a boat pulls into the ramp. The guy gets out of the boat, retrieves his 4wd and then backs it down the ramp. His partner replaces him in the driver’s seat and he gets into the boat. Then he fucks it all up, the boat isn’t on the trailer straight. So he starts yelling at his partner. He’s shouting something about her not putting the car in the right place.
But he’s not just shouting, he’s standing in the boat, screaming at her, calling her a stupid fucking bitch and everything else.
How fucken stupid are ya?
Eventually she gets of out of the car and he gets in, pulling the crooked boat and trailer out of the water and up into the carpark. Then he stands in front of her, with all these people around, and berates her, telling her how fucking stupid she is.
She’s humiliated. She says, quietly – I just didn’t feel comfortable with driving it up….
He screams at her face some more, then eventually she walks off. We too left the scene, but I dropped my daughter home and went back down to the wharf just in case I saw her and could offer her a ride, or cup of tea or a Howitzer.
Thankfully she’d gone. I like to imagine she went home, packed her bags and left him, but I’m sure she didn’t.
I’ve seen this show before but watching this as an adult though I realised there was another dimension to it. It’s something I’d never realised before.
Every single person down there was looking at that guy and thinking – what a fucking cock. He was basically standing on the back of his boat yelling out,
Look at me! I’m the most insecure little cock-smoker you’re likely to see for quite some time!
As we left the wharf he bailed up another woman and started explaining how stupid his partner was. I walked back towards him ready to say something like;
You’re a juvenile shit-stain who can’t take responsibility for your actions…..but I didn’t.
I should have maybe. I don’t know. I wouldn’t have made any difference, the guy would have gone home to his partner, and nothing would have changed.
Later, at home at bedtime I asked my daughter if she remembered that guy who was yelling at the wharf. I started to say some precious social justice shit like, it’s not OK at all for anyone to talk to anyone like that but then she said,
Yeah Mum, that guy was a total cock-smoker (words to that effect anyway).
She thought she was watching something totally abhorrent and strange, which is really all that matters.